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Hi there, I am Wiebke
Certified Relationship Coach and Mediator, PhD
I help future and current expat couples to understand and master their relationship challenges so that they can fully enjoy their couple life abroad.
As an Expat myself, I am aware of the challenges you face before, during, and after you moved abroad together.
Don't let the squabbles and challenges of your expatriation erode your relationship.
You can decide to change direction now.
Online Relationship Coaching
Your relationship does not have to stay the way it is now.
It does not need to feel difficult and exhaustive.
Let me help you reinvent it.
Coaching Sessions tailored to your individual situation and challenges: Work with me if you want to better understand and change the negative patterns within your relationship, improve communication between you, and change gears to more respectful and productive ways of interaction.
Tap into the beauty of a fresh start together. "Declutter" your relationship, set new goals, create new habits, and develop a new perspective on your couple. Follow my four-step-programme to let go of the past, and step into the future with curiosity and excitement.
Explanations and answers to
Relationship coaching is a professional intervention that focuses on developing skills for healthy communication and conflict resolution, and reigniting intimacy and connection between individuals. As relationship coach I encourage clients to become more self-aware, understand their values and beliefs, and learn how to be open and honest with themselves and their partner. Coaching is about reflection, empowering people to find their own answers, skill-building and supporting clients in making important choices. I will support you in understanding your relationship dynamics and behaviour.
It is important to say that not every person calling himself relationship coach will deliver professional coaching. As relationship coach I underwent training and certification and continously following training by the Gottman Institute. My approach to relationship coaching is systematic and structured, and many interventions (exercises) are used both from coaches and therapists.
It differs from couples therapy in several ways. Firstly, couples therapy will only be offered by a licensed therapist who is trained in dealing with mental health issues and illnesses, trauma, addiction, domestic violence. Secondly, a therapist might put more emphasis on your past to help you identify and work through trauma, family relations, or childhood wounds that influence your behaviour of today. There is a saying "Therapy is about archaeology, coaching is about architecture". While past experiences matter, they are not in the centre of our relationship coaching conversations. Lastly, a relationship coach will neither give you a diagnosis nor a treatment or some medicine, as coaches are experts and facilitators of processes.
Yes, you can! Relationship coaching does not necessarily require the direct involvement of both parties, even though ideally both partners work on their relationship together. If you start reflecting on your couple dynamics and working on your conflict and communication patterns, it will influence your couple dynamic one way or the other. I encourage you to schedule a call even though your partner might not be ready yet.
Please book a free 30-min. Call to see if we are a good fit and I am the right person for your current issues.
My focus is on UNDERSTANDING and ANALYSING patterns of behaviour and REPLACING them with alternatives through hands-on exercises on research-based interventions.
Inter alia, I can help you with
* making your relationship ready for the big move, so that you avoid the common traps many expat couples experience;
* help you understand why your relationship feels difficult and exhaustive;
* reflecting and improving your communication;
* understanding re-occuring perpetual problems / discussions;
* mediating a conflict that seems unsolvable
My services are not for you if your relationship problems root in mental disorders, addicitions, substance abuses, trauma, post traumatic stress, or the like.
During the training to become a relationship coach, priority is given to making sure that future coaches are unbiased and impartial when working with clients. We know that being biased towards one of the two clients will hamper the outcome of the coaching. I would be lying to say that in reality this is never challenging. However, I am confident to say that impartiality is one of my strengths, as I see couples as objects of research. I take an unbiased approach in my interactions, which includes refraining from taking sides when assessing the dynamics of a couple. Such an objectivity allows me to remain cognizant of all the contributing factors that may be influencing your interactions and communication patterns. By not taking sides I facilitate an environment of openness and trust, which is essential for any therapeutic intervention. If you are concerned that my coaching will be favouring your partner's perspective, I'd suggest we discuss this openly in our free intake call.
Absolutely not! After our first free 30-minute call, if you decide that my coaching is not for you, or you don't feel comfortable moving forward for any reason, you are not obligated to the coaching sessions or further payment.
I am Wiebke Anton, I hold a PhD in political science (LMU Munich), certified relationship coach (BTB) and mediator (WINGS HS Wismar). Currently, I am completing the advanced training courses of the Gottman Institute, which developed the integrated research-based couples therapy.
To this end, I have undergone various additional trainings, including the Gottman Method of Couple Therapy (Level 1), Solution Based Counselling, work with system boards and system constellations. I am part of a network of colleagues for regular supervision.
Direct, determined, and authentic.
With an eye for the big picture, systematic and efficient.
"Through her calm and focused style, Wiebke helped us to get through our separation phase in a levelheaded and respectful manner. We were both able to come to terms with the relationship and talk it out in a structured setting. Without her, this would never have succeeded."
"With a lot of sensitivity, an eye for the big picture and yet also an eye for detail, she was able to get through the complicated intertwining of the relationship and tell me exactly what was happening and why it was happening. I had finally been given the eye opener and knew why all these conflicts were occurring."
You have already taken the first step.
Take the second one.
Are you ready to improve your relationship?
Do you want to gain clarity and find a harmonious and respectful way of interacting with your loved one?
Then online relationship coaching is for you.
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